This week I asked you to have a look at the people that you surround yourself with, those that you spend the most time with and who influence what you do, what you think, how you act and in turn who you are. Did you have a chance to have a look?
I asked you this because I have learned that as we grow and evolve so do our tastes, our opinions and our relationships, and the people we associate ourselves with through these changing times plays a huge role in what we believe to be true about who we are, where we are at, and where we are going. So take a close look…are the people you regularly hang out with allowing you to be yourself, to express your true feelings? Do they lift you up and make you feel good about who you are and where you are in life? Or, do they spend time talking negatively about themselves or others? Are most of your friends and family positive or negative, happy or depressed, helpful or a constant source of resistance?
Do you see a connection?
When we take the time to have a deeper look into our relationships we begin to see so many similarities between ourselves and who we spend the most time with. This isn’t a coincidence! As we grow we form relationships from a variety of different sources; family, school, activities, work and even through our children’s lives. Some relationships last a long time and were meant to be. Some develop over the years and some come to an end in the blink of an eye, all for different reasons. While we can’t control other people, how they talk or who they are, we can control who we allow our mind, body and spirit to be influenced by.
True friends, no matter when or how they come into your life will always be there for you, through all the ups and downs, and they will help lift you up when you need it the most. We must understand that we are an ever changing and evolving species, some changing faster or slower than others, but the one thing that should always remain constant in a good relationship is the love and continued support that never waivers no matter what the circumstances.
So again I ask you to take a look at those closest to you. Each person has their role to play in your life, but always remember that it is your choice whether you will let them stay, for how long and how you will let them influence your life. Each relationship is unique and special, and knowing that you are able to be your true self with the ones you let stay, who make you feel good about your choices and let you express your individuality (while you do the same for them), those are the people that you should surround yourself with.